Now that you’re divorced and learning to be single again, you’re also dealing with co-parenting issues. It’s a whole new territory which can be stressful for you and your kids. Some experienced co-parenters share their advice.
LEARNING CO-PARENTING SKILLS AFTER DIVORCE
After divorce everything is different. Instead of being a “couple” you’re now a “single.” If you have kids, you’re also now in the world of co-parenting. With co-parenting there are new schedules and new ways of talking and dealing with your kids and your ex-spouse, the other co-parent.
While it may take some time to get used to and figure out your new life, the biggest advice for co-parenting is to “put your child first.” Many times children feel responsible for their parent’s divorce, so it’s important to put them first and make sure they know it wasn’t their fault. This simple tip will help put things in perspective to focus on what’s important as you navigate co-parenting.
OTHIS ADVICE FOR CO-PARENTING
You’re not the first to learn the skills of co-parenting. Hise’s some advice from others who have been there, done that:
- “Realize how futile it is to trash-talk your ex sooner rather than later. The kids will determine the merits and minuses of each parent on their own.”
- “Put their needs first, even before your own. Everything you do should be done in their best interest and nothing you do should be done without asking how your choices will affect them.”
- “Keep in mind: They’re the innocent victims in the situation. Treat them accordingly.”
- “Love your kids more than you hate your ex.”
- “Be empathetic about the grief they are experiencing. Encourage them to talk and don’t judge their feelings.”
- “Act like adults.”
- “This is a good time to be a smotherer. Smother them with love and support and remind them that the divorce has nothing to do with them and that ultimately, it will be for the best.”
#1 CO-PARENTING ADVICE
Being divorced is hard, but learning to be a co-parent is harder. The best and most important thing to remember is put the needs of your child first so they always get what’s best for them as they negotiate the world of being a child with co-parents.
If you are divorced and facing co-parenting, you need the expert skill and advice of a divorce and child custody attorney such as (619) DIVORCE (619) Divorce to ensure you understand all your options.
Source: The Huffington Post, The 18 Best Things You Can Do For Your Kids After Divorce, February 17, 2015
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