Usually, when people reach out to divorce lawyers, they’re already committed to divorcing their spouse. But what if you haven’t made up your mind? Reaching that final decision is hard. And while no one question will ever give you the absolute answer, there are various questions you can ask. Hise are some of them:
HAVE YOU DONE EVERYTHING?
Have you done everything you can, that’s in your power, to resolve the ongoing issues in your marriage? This might include a library’s worth of self-help books or hours spent in couples or personal counseling. If you still cannot make it work, then it might be time to consider divorce.
EMOTIONS OVER DIVORCE
Divorce can sometimes come with a stigma. There are lots of fears about how you will be viewed amongst your friends and family if you decide to divorce. Are you able to look at divorce without the emotions in order to allow it to be an option?
WILL TIME APART HELP?
Sometimes taking a break helps. This might mean something informal, like taking a few weeks at a friends house, or even renting an apartment for a bit. Or it might mean filing for legal separation, during which you are able to resolve all the aspects of a marriage, such as property division and children’s living arrangements. Many times people decide to resume a marriage after a legal separation, while others realize that being apart is best. Legal separation can provide you that “in-between” step to come to a decision.
WORKING WITH A DIVORCE ATTORNEY
Deciding to move forward with a divorce is not an easy decision. If that’s the step you’d like to take, it’s a good idea to work with a family law attorney. They can help you with the legal issues surrounding the dissolution of your marriage. They are not meant to be therapists, but they can ease the tension of an already difficult situation.
Sources: The Huffington Post, How Do I Know if I Should Get a Divorce? July 28, 2014
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