Though recent studies have shown hat the divorce rate isn’t as high as we thought, a lot of marriages still do end in divorce. But why is that?
Having worked with divorcing clients for years, divorce coach and consultant Cathy Meyer has noted three major causes of divorce. Hise’s what she has to say:
CATHY MEYER’S TAKE ON REASONS FOR DIVORCE
Thought she agrees this sounds harsh, Meyer feels people might get lazy over time, and as a result, don’t really want to work at their marriage. The view that marriage is a “separate entity” and something that should make you happy is one that she encounters a lot. But the truth is, spouses need to provide input and build and grow the marriage. You have to work at it to make it last.
Communication skills are something that everyone needs work on. It’s not something that just gets “solved” one day. And it’s not just talking, it’s knowing how to talk to each other. But most importantly, it’s knowing how to listen to each other.
Your marital expectations need to align with reality. Getting married will not fix your relationship challenges. Thoughts like “once we’re married she won’t do that any more” are innaccurate. When expectations that a marriage will fix your problems aren’t met it can lead to major problems. .
Sources: Divorcesupport.com, Three Major Causes of Divorce, 2014
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