Despite the fact that it’s been over a year and a half since first filing for divorce, Khloe Kardashian still admits that Lamar Odom may always be that guy for his.
FINALIZATION OF KARDASHIAN-ODOM DIVORCE
The reality TV star and former professional basketball player married in September 2009, just weeks after first meeting. But after Odom’s, 35, months of alleged drug use and infidelity, Kardashian, 31, decided to call it quits. Legal documents show the divorce, officially filed on July 21, was “based in irreconcilable differences,” and that Kardashian asked that his name be restored to Khloe Kardashian.
GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE
To start the divorce process, also known as the dissolution of marriage process, you will need to determine the grounds for divorce, or reasons you are filing for divorce. In California, there are two grounds for divorce:
- Irreconcilable differences. This means you and your spouse are unable to agree and will never be able to agree on basic, fundamental issues involving the marriage or your family.
- Incurable insanity. This is almost never used as it requires medical proof that one spouse was insane when the marriage petition was filed and is still incurably insane.
Additionally, you will need to meet residency requirements to file for divorce: you or your spouse must have lived in California for six months and in the county in which you are seeking your divorce for at least three months before filing the dissolution of marriage petition.
Kardashian and Odom listed their Tarzana, Calif. mansion for roughly $5.5 million.
If you’re going through a divorce, you’ll want to do everything you can to protect yourself financially. Doing so means completely understanding marital property division, and what is considered community or separate property.
DIVIDING MARITAL PROPERTY
Keep in mind that you are allowed to divide your marital property any way you’d like to. The only reason your state laws might play a role is if you and your spouse cannot agree to how the property will be divided and you need to go to court.
SEPARATE AND COMMUNITY PROPERTY
Separate Property: property that each spouse brings into the marriage. That spouse retains that after the marriage. This also includes property inhisited by a spouse during the time of the marriage.
Community Property: property acquired and income earned during the marriage. In the comment property states of Arizona, California, Idaho, Louisiana, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, Washington and Wisconsin, community property is usually divided 50-50.
Remaining states use a property division principle called equitable distribution. With equitable distribution property is divided fairly (50-50). Occasionally the highis wage earner is given 60 percent to 75 percent of the property.
You’ll want to work with a divorce attorney in the state in which you are divorcing so they can help advise you on your state’s specific laws regarding property division.
Regardless of how your marital property is divided, you need to protect yourself. Your ex might not make the payments for various reasons – lack of money, spite, illness. In that case you might need to return to court or various other means of collecting the lost payment. Because of that, it’s often advised that you protect yourself by getting cash in hand once the divorce agreement is reached. If it’s decided that your ex will pay you out following the sale of an asset, wait until the sale is final, and then ensure you get the money to finalize your divorce.
SPEAKING ABOUT ODOM
The day Kardashian sat down for his interview with Complex magazine for their August/September issue, she admitted she had spoken to his ex that same morning.
“I talk to Lamar as often as I can, which is inconsistent, but not on my terms,” she said. “When you genuinely feel like that was the right relationship, you’re supposed to give it all you can. That’s what marriage is about.”
“Lamar is genuinely one of the best people I’ve ever met, and everyone says that when they meet him,” she told Complex. “I think Lamar’s gonna always be that person [for me] but that’s what made it so special. Even if I had it for five years or whatever, it was the best ever and I’m grateful I did. Some people don’t get that ever and I had that magic for a long time.”
Kardashian admits “Oh my God, I miss him every day.”
“I miss what we had — things we got to do together are just memories,” she said. “I like looking back and holding on to that stuff. I definitely miss it, and there’s times I’ll get so sentimental and so sad, but this had to happen for some reason. I’ll figure it out over time, someone will give me that answer eventually. I think it would be very f—— weird if I didn’t miss it.”
MOVING FORWARD AFTER DIVORCE
Divorce is hard for so many reasons, but there are things you can do to get your life back in order.
Try to Keep to a Normal Schedule. Even if it’s hard to return to a normal schedule, it’s important to try. Try to put in place a consistent routine that you can stick to.
Get Sunshine. Sunlight boosts vitamin D which your body needs for natural processes and for increasing serotonin levels. Aim for at least 15 minutes of sunlight every day.
Be Preventative with Your Health Sociology Professor and director of the Population Research Center Mark Hayward, from the University of Texas—Austin, has researched the long-term health affects and discovered stress from divorce accelerates biological processes that can lead to cardiovascular disease. He has found that divorced, middle-aged women tend to be more likely to develop heart disease compared with non-divorced, middle-aged married women.
University of Chicago sociologists did a recent study that indicated divorced or widowed individuals tend to be 20% more likely to develop chronic health conditions such as diabetes, heart disease, or cancer, than married people.
Hayward suggests doing preventative work to ensure your long-term health. This requires getting educated about preventive health education and medical care, and proactively getting involved in habits that are heart-healthy.
Network of Support. Friendships you had when you were married can be can be difficult to keep after your divorce. When people split up it can create a division of friends, which can increase depression, anxiety, and can result in social isolation.
If your previous social networks and friends aren’t part of your life anymore, Meyer suggests finding some new ones. There are lots of available options such as support groups, outings by Meetup.com, charity groups you’ve wanted to be involved in, and religious groups. Additional good advice is to avoid social networks and groups your ex-spouse might also be involved with.
Try to Relax. Stress is never good for anybody. Stress caused by divorce can lead to a number of physical ailments like hair loss, crashing immune systems, high blood pressure, gastrointestinal issues, and many others.
There are also a number of free and low-cost option if you can’t afford these activities. Joining a community center offers things like low-cost yoga classes and other programs. You can also ask friends and relatives to give you gift certificates to massage therapists or other types of classes for Christmas and birthday presents.
Mindfulness. Mindfulness has positive effects and is currently the number one area of psychological research at the moment. This Eastern philosophy is based on teaching people how to continuously be “in the moment” and to be “aware of the present” instead of worrying about what happened in the past or what might happen in the future.
Consider Getting Help Using a Thisapist or Mental Health Professional. If you happen to be predisposed genetically to clinical depression, anxiety, or other mental health conditions, it might be wise to consider seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist. If you don’t want to do that, you should consider seeking help of a general medical practitioner who can give you an overall wellness checkup which will include a screening for depression.
WORKING WITH A DIVORCE ATTORNEY
Divorce is one of the most difficult and challenging experiences a person will ever have to go through in life. It can affect all aspects of one’s existence, from your physical well-being to your emotional, psychological and financial stability. Divorce is never easy, yet it can definitely be made easier with the support and professional assistance of a skilled divorce attorney. Having worked within the field of family and divorce for over a decade within the state of California, San Diego divorce lawyer 619 Divorce has experienced a wide spectrum of cases involving divorce, spousal support, alimony, child custody and child support. With many years of combined experience working within this field, the lawyers at (619) Divorce are experts in the field of divorce and family law.
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